Down Syndrome: Blessing or Curse?
There was a time at the beginning of our journey where I would’ve told you I felt cursed by my son’s diagnosis and would’ve meant every word. Actually, I wouldn’t have told you that because I would have felt too ashamed to even say the words.
The truth is after John-Michael was born we, for the most part, shut ourselves in to prevent the outside world from having a chance to uncover the truth about how we felt; because the fact was… we were devastated. Oh, we put on the required smiles and said all the right things but the truth was there etched into the fabric of our faces and that’s what we wanted to hide.
So for a time we felt like Down syndrome was a curse but now…
After three and a half years of John-Michael being a part of our lives I can confidently say that his diagnosis, though challenging, is the farthest thing from a curse. He has been one of our biggest blessings. He is truly amazing!
He’s had to overcome so many challenges already in his life and yet he never forgets to smile and laugh and throw the girls kisses. He has a sixth sense when you are struggling and does the funniest things to make you smile just to brighten your day. He’s a little actor that pretends to cry, loves to dance and is a musician at heart.
Don’t get me wrong, he still throws tantrums and likes to get into things he shouldn’t the same way any other toddler would do. But that’s all part of parenting… just regular old boring parenting, no special required. After having five kids I can assure you that there aren’t any differences.
Here’s the reality of all our situations. Being forced into the world of special needs parenting is an emotional experience and all the things we feel aren’t wrong, they’re just part of the process. Yes, you’re going to feel like you and your child have been cursed with this diagnosis but if you hang in there you’ll see for yourself that’s not the case.
I truly believe that we get to choose if our child having Down syndrome is a blessing or a curse but keep in mind that how you see it, is likely how your child will see it too. And to me, it’s far better for them to see themselves as challenged but able to overcome, gifted by God to fulfill a destiny that He wrote into the stars for them. They are a treasure waiting to be discovered and if you believe that they weren’t a mistake but were created by design then you see it come into your reality as they overcome each challenge they face.
If you ask me, it is far better to be for them than against them because there will be plenty of people in the world already against them.
Let me leave you with this verse from the Bible: John 9:1-3
1As he passed by, he saw a man blind from birth. 2And his disciples asked him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind (Or with Down syndrome)?”3Jesus answered, “It was not that this man sinned, or his parents, but that the works of God might be displayed in him.
I intend on allowing the works of God to be displayed in John-Michael and I hope you allow the same in your child. God Bless.